Self-centeredness: what is it?
Psychological characteristics of man are alwaysinterested in scientists and have been the subject of numerous studies. One of the strong factors affecting the personality of a person and his relationship with others is egocentrism. What is this feature, what impact does it have, how to overcome it? The answers to these questions will be interesting to all who are interested in psychology and their own personality.
Egocentrism is a feature of the psychea person in whom he can not and does not want to perceive someone else's point of view and put himself in the place of the opponent. The egocentric refuses to accept the fact that other people have the right to their own opinion, and believes that only he is right. The egocentrism of children's thinking is a natural phenomenon for children 5-10 years old. Numerous experiments conducted with children of this age prove their inability to look at the world from the other side, to imagine what the subject looks like from this opposite side. But more often this feature remains and in more mature age. In many families and in relations between people, self-centeredness becomes a normal phenomenon. What does it mean? The person is self-centered, insensitive to others and perceives everything through the prism of his own opinion.
People who suffer from egocentrism feel themselves aswould be at the center of this world, they believe that everything revolves around them and their interests. Most often, the reason for this is upbringing and indulging all the whims of a person from childhood. From infancy the child gets used to increased attention from adults and especially parents. Gradually, he realizes that there are certain ways that you can influence adults and make them fulfill all desires. With age, this feature does not pass, but it becomes even stronger. The need for attention goes beyond the home and parental love. The child wants to be the focus of attention in the kindergarten or school, in the courtyard and in the company. Gradually, these requirements develop into a kind of self-affirmation, in which even love implies ownership, full possession of man. Thus, egocentrism is born. What does this mean for the future life of man? Absence of spiritual development and cruelty towards other people, impossibility to establish sincere relations based on mutual understanding and love.
Overcoming egocentrism begins with awarenessa man of having a problem and wanting to conquer it. The ability to understand that all people are different, everyone has his own point of view and the right to defend one's own interests is not easy. But this is a step in the right direction. Many families, couples and partners thus maintained their relationships, which were heading for inevitable collapse due to lack of understanding and the desire to look at the situation from the other side.
Proper child upbringing is capable ofto prevent egocentrism. What does this mean in the context of the modern view of the upbringing of children? In a world of great opportunities and permissiveness for parents, it is important to convey to the child the value of trust between people based on generosity and understanding.