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The crisis of 3 years: What happens to a child?
The crisis of three years.
In the first years of life, the child and the mother are in symbiosis, it is important for the child that the mother be near. In the second year of life, the distance increases: the child gets the game “next to”, it is not so important for him to play together, and that an adult should be in close proximity with him.
From 2-2.5 to 3 years old it is recommended that the child has his own room, his own personal space.
This is an important stage in the development of a child: he begins to form the awareness of his gender, the corresponding behavior is formed.
Also in this period, the child learns to understand that you need to take care of your toys, that in your room it is important to keep order, that if he does not take away the toys, he can step on and break something. The child learns independence, he forms an understanding of purity.
The most difficult thing for parents is to change a child’s behavior.Previously, he was obedient, it was easy to negotiate with him, he was affectionate, but now he can say that he does not like his mother or begins to cry when he does not like something.
What happens to the baby?
The child is forming his “I”, the stage of emancipation, when the child is separated from the parents and builds a new relationship, a different level. The child begins to look at the world with different eyes.
During this life period of the child, it is important for parents to understand that not only it becomes difficult for them to communicate with the child, but it is also difficult for the child to share and understand his feelings. He is just beginning to get acquainted with them, to understand when and at what moment with what feeling it will be more correct to react. For example, if he hit, do not shout at mom that he didn’t notice the chair, but tell mom that it hurts him, perhaps he will feel better if mom pity him.
Parents should not react negatively to the child “I AM”, even when the child does not appreciate the seriousness of his strength, but offer his help when you give him the opportunity to try it yourself.
The main thing for the child is that the parent does not try to "break" him, and always go against his any negative expressions of emotions, but that the parent differentiates between where he really is right and where he should admit his guilt.
When a parent adequately assesses a conflict situation, then the child will have a whole range of choices on how to behave in a conflict. For example, if a mother always puts herself in the top position and the child is guilty in all situations, it can be that the child in adolescence and in adulthood will always avoid conflict, not defend their desires, and in the worst case, stop altogether understand yourself
How should react to mood swings in a child?
For example, if a child asked to pour tea into his mug, while his mother ignored it and poured it into another, the child could cry and run away to another room. In this situation, the mother should come up and say: “I saw how you reacted, what happened? Did you hurt? Let's agree that you will pronounce to me that you do not like, and not run away, and then I will understand you better. ”
This behavior shows the child how to respond at a given moment, and that he is right in his opinion.
Thanks to the parents, the child lays the foundation for behavior, understanding of their desires, and in the social world the child will correct them.
Dear parents, understand, not a child should understand us, but we are a child, because we were a child, and the child was not an adult yet.